How to let a guy down easy

[brendala]

I was taking my 10 minute break at work today when a guy sat down at my booth and started flirting with me. First thing he asks: "How old are you?". I replied that he ought to know that its extremely rude to ask a woman's age. And he told me I looked young and he wanted to make sure I wasn't underage! O_o

...yup. I got asked out by a stranger today. That hasn't happened in a while.

Anyhoo, he said he worked nearby and asked if we could go out to coffee sometime. I asked why he would want to spend time with me when he didn't know the first thing about me and he said "Because you're attractive and you seem nice".
He seemed like a nice guy, so I asked if he was into cartoons, comics, anime, and/or video games. He said "No, I like music, movies, and I love going to the beach."
....yeah. Basically, this dude is dullsville (I'm surprised he didn't tell me he loved pina coladas and getting caught in the rain -_-) and I already know nothing will come of going out with him. The 'nerdy interest' thing is a big deal breaker for me; and I HATE the beach (I have Irish skin that fries like bacon in the sun). I was in a hurry to return from my break; so I didn't give this guy a definite answer. So now I'm mulling over how I should go about blowing him off. Should I...

a) try the coffee thing once just for the hell of it

b) just tell him that I'm not interested and tell him to "F**K OFF" if he persists

c) Tell him that I'm Orthodox and can only date Jewish men (I've used this one before and it worked pretty well).

Comments

[dj-rocca.livejournal.com]

Well if you think you should try going out for coffee, I'd say go for it. But he seems like a dud to me, beaches ain't my thing. I turn hot pink in the sun.

[brendala.livejournal.com]

He didn't strike me as a creep (even though he was a bit more forward than I'd like). Sitting in a coffee shop with him wouldn't be too bad. But I don't want him to get the idea that I'm interested because I just couldn't date someone who wouldn't feel at home at a comic or anime convention.

When it comes to dating a guy, I can look past a lot of things (like drastically different political and/or religious views) if the guy is sufficiently nerdy. This guy is not even close.

[ladyxmoonlight.livejournal.com]

It'd be funny if you tried the orthodox thing and he was Jewish. XD

[brendala.livejournal.com]

He didn't strike me as Jewish (he's Mexican and had a bit of an accent). But I guess anything is possible, right? LOL

[ladyxmoonlight.livejournal.com]

It'd sure as hell be hilarious if he converted or something. Did you decide what to do?

[brendala.livejournal.com]

I haven't been back to that job since then. I guess I'll just figure out what to do if/when I see him again. :P

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

I'd try the coffee thing once just for the hell of it. If anything, you'll get to see how the muggles live.

[pharoah999.livejournal.com]

if he doesn't seem like a creep then maybe try the coffee thing. A public place would be good though. maybe go walk around the mall or something?? sorry i don't have alot of experience with men and ive met weirdos.

[hannahsarah.livejournal.com]

If your gut is saying "NO!" then tell him you're flattered, but you're really not looking for a relationship right now, and that "it's complicated".

On the other hand, if you're just unsure then a meetup at Starbucks might not be so bad. Maybe he was nervous, and he actually has a really good personality. Maybe he'll be really awkward, and you can come back here and write a hilarious post about it, complete with comic strip!

Dooooo iiiiiiiit!

[tea-holic.livejournal.com]

I agree with this!!

In exception: If you ARE open to a relationship, don't lie. Just say "I'm flattered, but I'm really not interested. Thank you though!" (And hopefully he backs off lol)

But definitely if he at least seems like a nice guy, you never know how it might turn out if you just go somewhere public but comfortable just to talk.

(And I agree if it calls for a comic I'd looooove to see that! hehe)

Good luck!!! ♥

[virus-x.livejournal.com]

PLEASE tell me "C" is a smokescreen.

[brendala.livejournal.com]

My family isn't actually religious at all. The "I'm orthodox and can't date outside my faith" excuse is just a trump card I sometimes use when I want to blow off a dude without hurting his feelings/ego.

[virus-x.livejournal.com]

OK, just making sure I'm not wasting a trip! ;)

[bonemarch.livejournal.com]

Perhaps I should feel a bit bad because I asked you your age no so long ago. ^_^*
Though a free meal or coffee never hurt and maybe "Dullsville" was trying to make himself seem cool. Because being into music, movies and the beach is pretty general for cool stuff, so maybe he was trying to sound cool. So go expecting free food but leave yourself open minded enough to be impressed... If said guy proves himself, that is. And if not, what cartoons are you into. *does the finger pyramid of evil.*